Borrowing Trouble

July 31, 2023

Of all the trouble that I have these days, I wonder how much of it is borrowed. Here’s why I ask. I’m starting a new job tomorrow. It doesn’t feel like an entirely new job because I’ve worked with these folks for the last 6 months as an independent contractor. But then they handed me … More Borrowing Trouble

Light & Love

July 30, 2023

I enjoy questions.  Gentle probes, whether I’m the inquiring mind or the query recipient.  When I admire someone, I find a way to ask about a skill or quality I observe and appreciate.  How did you come to be this way?  Do you have a story to share?  Occasionally, I’ll admit, it’s a technique I … More Light & Love

Episode 28: How Self-Care Can Make Us Better Humans with Vicki Atkinson

July 28, 2023

We all have different ideas of what a self-care looks like for ourselves – ideas that match our personality and phase of life. But for all the variation in style, there is a central question of how to make self-care stick. So in this episode, Vicki and I talk about the little hacks that help … More Episode 28: How Self-Care Can Make Us Better Humans with Vicki Atkinson

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After Time, Only Love Remains

July 27, 2023

I was driving in my car today and caught myself thinking fondly of my ex. We’ve been broken up for one year and seven months now. And in that moment, I realized that I have only ever truly loved two men. Both of these men were long-term partners and in both relationships we lived together for a time. When you live with someone and share your life with a person for several years, you see everything about each other, no matter how well you try to hide things. And as I was thinking about my ex today, I was just remembering all of the good, all of the things I truly loved about him. In that moment, I also realized that all of the negative thoughts I’ve carried since the breakup, all of the things that were said and not said during our parting, just faded into the distance. And now, only love remains. … More After Time, Only Love Remains

Quiet, Please!

July 23, 2023

“Overwhelmingly, we are attracted to people who listen to us well.  When things go wrong in any relationship, the first factor to consider is:  Are we still listening?” -Glaser & Glaser, p. 17 Listening skills…they’re the bedrock of healthy relationships and if I had to isolate one topic addressed most frequently in my consulting practice … More Quiet, Please!