When I was in elementary school, I got an invite for a friend’s birthday party. I should have been excited about the invite, and I was, but I was nervous too. The party was going to be a sleepover. I remember worrying that my friends would figure out my deep, dark secret. I was scared … More Scared of the dark
When we brought our daughter home from the hospital as a newborn, her skin was a yellowed jaundice color and she had problems keeping anything down. Infant jaundice usually occurs because a baby’s liver isn’t mature enough to get rid of bilirubin, a yellow pigment of red blood cells, in the bloodstream. The doctor told … More Collecting seashells
I was driving in my car today and caught myself thinking fondly of my ex. We’ve been broken up for one year and seven months now. And in that moment, I realized that I have only ever truly loved two men. Both of these men were long-term partners and in both relationships we lived together for a time. When you live with someone and share your life with a person for several years, you see everything about each other, no matter how well you try to hide things. And as I was thinking about my ex today, I was just remembering all of the good, all of the things I truly loved about him. In that moment, I also realized that all of the negative thoughts I’ve carried since the breakup, all of the things that were said and not said during our parting, just faded into the distance. And now, only love remains. … More After Time, Only Love Remains
My wife asked me to run a few errands last week. I had to drive on a busy four-lane highway near where I live and was rounding a curve when I started to veer into the left lane. The Lane Departure Warning in my car detected that I was drifting out of my lane and flashed … More Drifting out of my lane
I hate to deliver such tough love wisdom, but I do believe that often times, pain is our best teacher. Because most of us as human beings don’t like to experience pain. We want to expedite the process of moving through and/or eliminating our pain as fast as we possibly can. Because it feels uncomfortable and miserable when we’re in it, right? And because of this, I think us wise ones choose to make the best of our pain, move through it in some kind of efficient way, and see what we can learn from it. The rest of us (of course I do this too) often just try to ignore it in the hopes that it goes away. However, that often leads to tumors and other ailments in our body, so I don’t recommend this method. … More How Do We Fill Up Our Cups When We’re Empty?
Most of us are taught to live our lives by taking lots of action, making things happen, choosing and moving and doing. And yes, that’s a massive part of the way life works, and there’s nothing wrong with that. However, have you ever experienced times in your life when things were so clearly out of your control, and it was very obvious that things were happening “to you,” despite your input or participation? … More Old Doors Are Closing But New Ones Have Not Yet Opened
“Nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know.” Pema Chodron Both of my daughters now live in Colorado. The youngest has been there about 2 years. Her older sister and family just recently settled there. Both came to their decisions to move for different reasons. The younger chose work opportunities, … More Leaning In To The Unexpected
Image by Fauxels by Pexels. I was lost. I wasn’t sure whether to turn right or left. In the end, the direction didn’t really matter, because no matter where I turned, it seemed to be the wrong direction. I was a new manager and I was trying to find my way. On top of everything … More I’ve fallen and I can’t get up!
I love this quote from Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. The first time I read it, I swear it pulsated with insight: The most beautiful people I’ve known are those who have known trials, have known struggles, have known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross The MOST beautiful people in the world? … More Letting Go of Fear
I feel gratitude for how supported I feel in my life right now. And please don’t even begin to assume for a sec that my life is super easy and awesome. But, it’s also not too terrible. It’s a mix of both yay and not-so-yay, and there are ups and downs at all times. And because this is generally just how life operates and flows, I think any one of us could easily get swept away by the drama of any single life circumstance. So, how do we stay on track during the yay and nay fluctuations? How do we keep growing and flourishing, even when we fall backwards at times? … More 5 THINGS I NEED IN ORDER TO FLOURISH AND GROW
The Heart of the Matter 