Let me say upfront, it wasn’t my finest moment. I got stuck in our first-floor bathroom. We have the same doorknobs that were first installed by the contractor who built the house. The inside mechanism on the doorknob in the bathroom is worn and doesn’t always catch, my wife has been asking me to replace … More Locked out!
Over the holidays, I was sitting around talking with my mom and brother. My brother, who lives on a World War II era tugboat, mentioned the advice his friend, BT gave him before he bought his tugboat more than 20 years ago. His friend advised him that he shouldn’t buy the boat because “It’d be … More Heart Dreams That Call for Big Leaps
“You made me feel like I belonged..” … More Know My Name
For me, control is the near enemy of kindness. When I want something that I think I’m doing to land a certain way or the recipient to respond in a particular way, I know I’m not being kind but instead controlling. … More When Kindness Falls Like Rain
I’ve been avoiding the blogosphere for months now. And do you know why? Because I finally decided to date someone I really like. And whenever I do that, my world turns upside down, all hell breaks loose in my nervous system, and I become unrecognizable to myself. Actually, that last part isn’t true. I definitely recognize this part of myself. She’s been with me for decades, and she hasn’t gone anywhere. I just don’t like the look of her all that much. So over the years, I’ve performed the cunning act of dating people I’m kinda eh about. Because when I’m eh about someone, I don’t lose myself. And when I like someone, my wounds and demons emerge like boils on a toad’s back, which is never fun. … More This Is Why I Don’t Date People I Really Like
“This is the only perfection there is, the perfection of helping others. This is the only thing we can do that has any lasting meaning.” Andre Agassi … More Making A Difference
I learned about death the hard way. One day in the early 1970s, my mom picked me up from the neighbor lady who watched me during the day. When we got home, she told me that Shep, our lovable Collie, had died. She had gotten loose from her leash, strayed from the yard, and gotten … More My first brush with death
A gateway to kinship and connection… … More Finding Purpose in Loss
Listen, love, learn…from one another… … More Depth Matters
“If you want to make one choice today that will make you healthier and happier – pay attention to your connections with other people.” – Robert Waldinger On a recent Monday morning I was settling down to work and I received this text, Somehow the lack of punctuation made it seem all the more urgent. The situation … More The Small Decisions that Matter
The Heart of the Matter 