Let’s Dance!

March 4, 2023

We are starting month 3 here at The Heart of The Matter! Because spring is around the corner (somewhere) we are choosing to lighten up a bit to embrace the longer, sunnier days. That means our attitudes, outlook and posts this month are undergoing a slight change. We are all about the humor, especially when … More Let’s Dance!

sunrise on a beach

The Subtleties of Love Addiction

March 3, 2023

The word “addiction” is so alarming to me and brings up all kinds of associations. I think of my mother with her vodka, her DUI’s, her rehab stints, and her overall sad and lonely train wreck of a life. I think of movies that portray addiction and recovery incredibly well, such as 28 Days and Thanks for Sharing. I think of being taken to AA meetings by my parents, my twin sister and I playing under the table while people talk about their feelings in a room full of cigarette smoke. I think of 12-step recovery books arranged welcomingly on the top of toilet tanks (that’s kind of a thing people in recovery do). I grew up in a recovery family and have seen many forms of alcohol addiction. I’ve seen loved ones recover and loved ones pass away from the disease. It’s a loaded word, and for most of my life, I swore I would never be associated with it … More The Subtleties of Love Addiction

In this house

March 1, 2023

My wife has a simple wall hanging that she picked up on sale from Target or TJ Maxx or some home goods store. I’m not good at guessing prices, but I can’t imagine that she paid much for it, maybe $20 to $40. It’s about 10 x 20 long and hangs above our television set … More In this house